December 18th, 2009
what is love …
most people say love is a feeling you get …
most people also say … love is when you want the best for the other person …
some people will tell you that love is sex …
few people will say that love is wonderful …
a handful of people will tell you they love you … and actually mean it …
so what is love … Its be slinged around for so many decades … its not even funny
Its a feeling you get … a tingly thromping feeling inside of you when you see the person …
its a empty feeling when you’re not with the person …
kids can associate that tingly feeling with potty training …
adults will feel the same when they spend alot on an expensive item they’ve wanted for so long …
love … IS wanting to give the best to the other person …
so sacrifice ??? life isnt like hollywood or any korean drama … how often are you going to fall for someone just to hand her/him over to another person so they will be happy …
the chances are … 0 … never … zero … nana
love is sex …. what a stupid thing to say …
you would possibly show love through sex … atleast most people would …
but im sure it idea came forth with several hippies in a “time machine” fan trying to get laid …
boy were they successful … and im sure theres a billion people out there right now getting suckered into having sex because they believe that love is sex … and someone told them that famous over used line “I love you”
Love IS wonderful … when you’re actually in love …
So what is love … it all comes back to this question …
Totally confused ??? Are you asking yourself right now … why did i just spend 10 minutes (slow reader) of my life reading something i ask myself everyday ???
well if you got this far … ill tell you the answer …
If i knew this ten years ago … i wouldnt have gotten all these scars … i wouldnt have tried suiciding so much that the local polices and paramedics know me by name …
Love … is being able to provide absolute happiness and wellbeing …
(the next part gets complicated)
yes i know its general … but these things can never be specific …
im sure you all knew it by heart … but wanted to find your own way into saying it …
love is not a one person game … it HAS to involve both parties …
those who sacrafices … yea you can say im happy when they’re happy … but trufully … are you happy ???
it all comes down to a mathematical equation
I Love You … I L Y has to be constant …
I = I
Love = being able to provide absolute happiness and wellbeing …
You = You …
that is perfect love … 100% love …
now there is always a variable in this equation … happiness and wellbeing … and the Absolute (%) is the factor …
Expand it like you would in grade school math
I (can provide you with (Absolute) happiness and wellbeing) you
I + You = 100% … like sunday bible class … or any other thign in the world … you and i make one whole … 100%
so I x ( Absolute % x (happiness + wellbeing)) + You = 1 or 100%
I(A%(H+W))+Y = 1 … Perfect Love Equation ..
of course in the real world … 1 can never be achieved … like light speed (usually … i personally dont believe that)
its called Murphy’s Law … what goes wrong can go wrong …
so looking at the equation … I(A%(H+W)) must = .5 and Y must also = .5
there will always be a 5 to 10 % probability of error … a error margin … if you will …
making it impossible to achieve Perfection …
now … going even unneccessarily deep …
for Love to happen the other party must “Love” too …
so I(A%(H+W))+Y should then be I(A%(H+W))+Y(A%(H+W)) = 1
because the other party must complete the the love cycle … and match yours for it to be perfect
the Absolute % is different for everyone … making it difficult to achieve …
I( A%i (H+W))+Y( A%y (H+W)) = 1
If for instance you and your partner are in a state where nothing matter … nothing else is a factor … like a perfect vacuum for light …
both party’s A% must be 100% for it to be perfect … which should be the case if nothing else matters …
So … next time you THINK you love someone …
go through the whole equation … whats your absolute factor … what is your happiness and wellbeing level that you can provide …
what is it for that person … what level of error margin are you willing to give out …
put that all together … and if you pass the problem … 50% + (lets be generous) then you must ask yourself … do you love her/him … ???
or you can ask yourself …
so what is love ???